[image of a smiling white male with face and username obscured. text following: “Heyo.
Wanted to mention the fact that I understand the main differences between Feminism and Femi-nazis.
Also, videogames are awesome and we should hang out and play them.”]
This is the message you sent to me. I notice a distinct lack of: how are you today?, or you seem interesting! let’s talk more about [a shared interest]?, have you read/seen/heard/eaten anything interesting/new recently? No, nothing that would be engaging just arrogant demands and spewing misogynist/ antisemitic slurs. Brilliant.
Let’s start with the basics. Antisemitism is utter reprehensible bullshit. Calling someone or even using the term “Femnazi” to describe another person reinforces 2 things: 1) that you can define or have a say in what does or does not make a person a feminist. (news flash: you don’t.) 2) that you think it’s ok to trivialize millions of people’s suffering and deaths just to smear someone whom you disagree with.
Let’s move on to some of the things you mentioned while answering some of the questions:
Do you believe that there exists a statistical correlation between race and intelligence?
This is some of the most racist bullshit I’ve read to date. Statistical differences are most often related to biases in the tests themselves - most exams measure how well a student can interpret the cultural background of the test writers, rather than serving as an actual measure of intellectual ability. In other words: these tests often negate/completely ignore a student’s: culture, background, personal experiences, and class. Standardized testing has been proven to be racially biased over and over again.
Jealousy: healthy or unhealthy, in the context of a relationship?
Healthy Jealousy without action keeps the relationship fresh and healthy.
No. Did you know that a partner “act[ing] excessively jealous and possessive?" is a sign of an emotionally abusive relationship? Did you know that long term jealousy can make you: anxious, depressed, resentful, paranoid, and irrational angry? Jealousy is an emotion that people feel. It’s normal. However it is not a healthy emotion. Keep a relationship fresh?? What is this bullshit? How you deal with your jealousy and emotional reaction to the jealousy experienced determines the health of a relationship.
Do you think women have an obligation to keep their legs shaved?
You do not own another person. They are not obligated to do JACK OR SHIT with THEIR body FOR YOU. Personal bodily autonomy* is a thing you should probably look into. You can have a preference for a thing no one is slighting you but when you declare shit like “you’re obligated to be smooth in the legs based on your gender” you’re saying: 1) I have a say in your body and/or how you present your body, 2) i think that only women should be held to standards of beauty that cost them money and change the natural state of themselves even if they don’t really want to, 3) that you think that women should be treated differently from men.
Do you believe that men should be the heads of their households?
WOMEN/ NON-BINARY/ A-GENDERED INDIVIDUALS ARE PEOPLE. They are capable of running a home, they are capable of taking charge and being bread winners. Your misogynist bullshit is what is setting us all back. Do not act like you understand feminism and spew all this shit you’ve been spewin’. Back up your bullshit and we can get into this.
FUCK. Even in a religious context women were not put on this earth to serve men. They were put here to help work together for the fucking progress of the species on the fucking planet. God didn’t say to Eve “you’re here to serve Adam and his needs,” no, fuck that shit. “And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it…” (Gen 1:28 KJV even!) “THEM” BOTH OF THEM. From a non-religious PoV It’s been proven time and again that women are just as capable of taking over and getting shit done. So stow your sexism.
To the second part of this message, no, there is no should. You do not demand things from me. You ask, fucking politely, would you like to play video games sometime? There is no “we”. There is “you” an individual person and “me” another individual person. Video games ARE awesome, yes they should be played, but not by the two of us in the same space. Ever. I want 0 interactions with you, your sexism, and/or your racism.
TL;DR: Video games ARE awesome, yes they should be played, but not by the two of us in the same space. Ever. I want 0 interactions with you, your sexism, and/or your racism.
* Personal autonomy is the capacity to decide for oneself and pursue a course of action in one’s life, often regardless of any particular moral content. Political autonomy is the property of having one’s decisions respected, honored, and heeded within a political context.